Finding and creating yourself

Life isn't about finding yourself.  Life is about creating yourself.

-- George Bernard Shaw

I think most of us are searching the path to find ourselves and the meaning of life in this earthy journey. Along the way, we created something different to call "self" and life fulfilment!

It is not possible and sometime a bit hard for most of us not to create something along the path we travel. We live a normal life, yet, it is normal not to repeat the way other did with their lives!

I find my creative incentive in my daily life, in library work, in learning and reading or in training new or old subjects!
It is the joys of having or experiencing something new from the world I lived, the people and events I experienced that make my days!

Sometime it is creation from my own explorations or with my hand works, sometime it is conversation with the like-minded and new works that give me great thrills in life and keep me going!

Personally, I think "creating" works for me! I find it easier to create something new than to follow something in existing practice. 

It is "be" and "through the creation process", some self discovery is found and done. 

I think to teach or train someone to do something is easy if we allow creation to happen naturally in the learning journey!

That is why I enjoy teaching and training as no session is the same. The learners, trainees and participants are creative souls that enrich the sessions.

Teaching is the way I share my experience and with the little light I hold, I can light up many candles that make the room illuminated. 

When you are in the room with bright hearts that are shining and mirroring one another, learning is joyful and training is contentment!


Dexterine Ho Soo Miang

Let Others Shine AND Let Ourselves Shine

"... people in our society at least unconsciously hold the conviction that someone else's success limits their own, makes them lesser, and puts a permanent lid on their own chances.

The world believes in finite resources and in everybody's guilt. As long as we adhere to these pernicious beliefs, we will not only fail to let others shine, but we will never be able to allow ourselves to shine fully either."

-- Marianne Williamson


When you light up other people's lives and let them shine, you are the one who holds the candle with light.

The different between having the light on your candle and lighting others as well are:

With light on your candle, you have some light to shine on your journey in life. When you light up another's candle, the light on their candle not only brightens their life, it also illuminates yours!

Sometimes in life, we may hold a candle without light and live in darkness.

We would appreciate those who light it up!

When we need the light and someone passing by lights it up for us, our hearts rejoice with the brightness it brings!

That experience is unforgettable!

If creating that unforgettable experience is as convenient and as easy as lighting a candle for others, why hesitate!

I have just celebrated my birthday and I am thankful to have friends who always light up my candle when I need it!

My life is only meaningful if I can light up theirs as well!

Dexterine Ho