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Tuesday, December 30, 2008

I invite

every minister, every priest,

every rabbi, every teacher, every guru,

every Master, every president, every prime minister,

every king, every queen, every leader, every nation,

every political party

to issue one statement that would heal the world:

OURS IS NOT A BETTER WAY, OURS IS MERELY ANOTHER WAY.


-- Neale Donald Walsch
Yours is a culture that has long used physical pain as a punishment for unwanted behavior not only in children, but in adults.

You actually kill people to get people to stop killing people.

It is insanity to use the energy that created a problem to seek to solve the problem.

It is insanity to repeat the behaviors you want to stop in order to stop them.

It is insanity to model behaviors all over your society that you say you do not want your offspring to copy.

And the highest insanity is pretending that none of this is happening, then wondering why your children are acting insane.


-- Neale Donald Walsch

The cure for boredom

The cure for boredom is curiosity.

There is no cure for curiosity.


-- Dorothy Parker

Commitment to excellence

The quality of a person's life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.


-- Vince Lombardi, 1913-1970

No 'self-made' man.

There is no such thing as a 'self-made' man.

We are made up of thousands of others.

Everyone who has ever done a kind deed for us, or spoken one word of encouragement to us, has entered into the make-up of our character and of our thoughts, as well as our success.


-- George Burton Adams (1851 - 1925)
Contentment comes as the infallible result of great acceptances,

great humilities—of not trying to make ourselves this or that

(to conform to some dramatized version of ourselves),

but of surrendering ourselves to the fullness of life—of letting life flow through us.


-- David Grayson


It is like what Lao Zhi said in Dao Te Jing,

Nature flows and grows if human being do not block and destroy it!

Let go!

Let life flow through us!


Dexterine Ho

Enlightenment is inside of daily life

There is no enlightenment outside of daily life.

-- Thich Nhat Hanh

Thursday, December 25, 2008

Christmas and New Year Gift

Christmas and New Year gift suggestions:

To your enemy, forgiveness.

To an opponent, tolerance.

To a friend, your heart.

To a customer, service.

To all, charity.

To every child, a good example.

To yourself, respect.


-- Oren Arnold


To prepare the gift, you need time to calm your mind, open your heart, refine your thought and be mindful about your behaviour. When you are ready to give, learn to wrap it up nicely and present it to those who are readly or glad to receive.

Some time, a gift given at the wrong time, to a wrong person, with a wrong thought, or in a wrong way may make the gift unwanted.

Precise gift not accepted or unwanted, is wasted.

Today is Christmas, and to start giving, just do the last thing first:

Give yourself a great gift today: Respect

and the rest will fall in nicely!

Cheers!


Dexterine Ho

Saturday, December 20, 2008

Flexibility vs rigid

Flexible person do not fear changes, and rigid people are just the reverse.

Learn to be flexible with your choice and the day stays positive when something happen do not match your first choice.

If you are rigid, when you can not get your best choice in anything, the day will goes sour.

The day stays positive or goes sour is more to do with your fears to change than with reality.


Dexterine Ho

Save plans for the New Year

It is about two weeks before 2009 knocks at our door!

I think I it is not a good time to start any new plans, instead, save them for the New Year.

It is good to wrap up old projects I started this year and spend some quality time tidying up my office and put all the essential things/tools in place where they belong.

I learn now that if I try to make everything happen at once, I may miss out on opportunities that come along the way.

It our nature to push and work through very busy schedule sometime, nevertheless, when we have too many projects at hand, we may not be able to cope, and frustration will be the end results!

As most of the time, ideas need time before that can evolve, we should be patience and allow things to develop and then make our move along the way.

All big achievements can only come if we have the patience to wait, to shape and to let it develop and bloom slowly.


Dexterine Ho

Thursday, December 18, 2008

Minus-ing and plus-ing

By your thinking, you are either adding to your good or you are taking away from it.

The law is inexorable.

Failure or lack in your life is simply the result of continuously minus-ing yourself.

Conversely, success and prosperity are the results of constantly plus-ing yourself.


-- Eric Butterworth, Spiritual Economics

Rely on someone else to make you happy?

It is when you rely on someone else to make you happy and to bring you fulfillment that you fall flat on your face.

That is when you have given up your responsibility to yourself.

-- John-Roger

Devote our life to worthwhile actions

Often we allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget.

We lose many irreplaceable hours brooding over grievances that, in a year's time, will be forgotten by us and by everybody.

No, let us devote our life to worthwhile actions and feelings, to great thoughts, real affections and enduring undertakings.

-- Andre Maurois (1885-1967)

Become a person of value

Try not to become a man of success

but rather to become a man of value.


-- Albert Einstein

Basic nature of human beings

It is not the basic nature of human beings to be horrible.

It is the basic nature of human beings to be loving.

When humans are being horrible, it is because of something they believe.

Ask them, therefore --

even in the midst of the horror --

ask them:

What hurts you so much that you feel you have to hurt me to heal it?


-- Neale Donald Walsch

Destiny

Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice;

it is not a thing to be waited for,

it is a thing to be achieved.


-- William Jennings Bryant

Patience and persistence

Knowing trees, I understand the meaning of patience.

Knowing grass, I can appreciate persistence.


-- Hal Borland (1900-1978)

Release the fear

Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes.

In order to be free, we must learn how to let go.

Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain.

The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life.


-- Mary Manin Morrissey

To be humble, to care, to be fair

When a man is humble, he can grow.

When a man cares, he is unafraid.

When a man is fair, he has enough for others.

Living a simple life means keeping our priorities in order.


-- Lao Tze

Opportunities disguised as impossible situtations

We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.

-- Charles R. Swindoll

Which game do you want to play

Which game do you want to play:

Who’s Right

or

Let’s Make Life More Wonderful?


-- Marshall Rosenberg

You are the light of the world

You are the light of the world. Do you not know this?

Everyone is, when they choose to be.

A city on a hill cannot be hidden.

Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bushel.

Instead, they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house.

-- Neale Donald Walsch

Positive thinking

Positive thinking is not the destination; it is the journey.

An optimistic person will be constantly challenged – by external circumstances as well as inner fears and doubts.

Always remember that these tests are like a ladder you must climb.

As you move past each rung, your optimism strengthens and your confidence begins to flex newly found muscle that you might never have developed otherwise.


-- Montague Ewards

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Free will

Free will is not the liberty to do what one likes, but the power of doing whatever one sees ought to be done, even in the very face of otherwise overwhelming impulses.

There lies freedom indeed.


-- George MacDonald

Monday, December 08, 2008

Simply do nothing

When I feel drained from the long week full of activities (talks, workshops, seminars, visiting exhibition, attend social functions/performance and running errands), I find it good to relax and take a break and simply do nothing.

Instead of going out and running at a busy pace, I just like to stay at home to read newspaper or catch up on some good books to calm the nerves.

Some time, if the eyes are too tired and reading become a task that is hard to accomplish, listening to music or news is a great release!

Instead of creating a busy schedule with lot of self-imposed enrichment activities, I just like to be lazy and simply do nothing!

If you think doing nothing is easy, my experience tell me that it is not.

To calm the mind is hard as we are so used to keep my mind updated with social trends, current news and knowledge acquisitions.

We need activities to make us feel that we are living!

Some joys in life do come from fruitful and meaningful activities.

Nevertheless, it's important to simply do nothing and use this space to regroup our mind.

If I utilize all the energy I can for a while, I will soon find things get hectic and beyond my control. Whenever I used to enjoy will become a task/chore that I find it hard to accompanied!

Learn to enjoy every minute of your life.

Learn to enjoy every minute of your life.

Be happy now.

Don't wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future.

Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it's at work or with your family.

Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.


-- Earl Nightingale (1921-1989)



It may look simple and sound easy to do so.

Nevertheless, I am trying very hard to follow the words and translating them to real life.

Some how, I can only do it once a while, now and then.

It is easy to forget about it for a long while and pick it up again here and there.

Is it not true that most of us are like that?

We are a bit absence-minded when our life is concerned. We know what we should do, yet pursuing something else and distant ourselves from it.

After going astray for a while (sometimes a long while), we would then re-look at what is our inner calling.

Even then, we take time to weight the pros and con of letting go of what we are pursuing.

It is hard to come to a decision of dropping every and learn to enjoy every minutes of our life!

So, "Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now!"

If you are waiting for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. It will happen only your are the one who created or planted the seed of your own happiness now!

Cheers!


Dexterine Ho

Monday, December 01, 2008

We become what we think about: Resentment, forgiveness and friendship

When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel.

Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.

-- Catherine Ponder


Throughout all history, the great wise men and teachers, philosophers, and prophets have disagreed with one another on many different things.

It is only on this one point that they are in complete and unanimous agreement. -

We become what we think about.

-- Earl Nightingale (1921-1989)
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We become what we think about:

The only one who suffers from the resentment you have is you yourself.

The longer you hold the resentment toward that person whom you dislike, the longer you bear the feeling.

Why makes your life so miserable and bitter with bad memory or emotion that you do not like to hold nor keep?

Delete it, remove it or migrant your thought to something more positive or more joyful!

Fill your emotion/thought with things that make you feel good.

Be graceful to people who makes your life meaningful, comfortable or convenient, and pass it on...

Enjoy the company of good friends whom you make along your life journey.

In the absence of good company, have good thought that fill your empty mind.

If you find your circle of friends are not good enough, change the way you treat your friends.

As friends mirror your thought and behavior, and like-minded attracted like-minded, one can only get friends one choose to make and keep!

Instead of looking for new friends and turn good and old friends to enemies or strangers, enhance your relationship with old friends while you make new one.

Adding new friends to your life should not be at the expense of old and bona fide friends.

Old friends are like old wine, they are better with the increase in age and time!


Dexterine Ho