Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.
-- Buddha
Showing posts with label Thought. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Thought. Show all posts
Friday, January 28, 2011
Saturday, January 15, 2011
A portrait of yourself
Every man's work, whether it be literature or music or pictures or architecture or anything else, is always a portrait of himself.
-- Samuel Butler (1835-1902) English Writer
-- Samuel Butler (1835-1902) English Writer
Monday, January 03, 2011
You're not thinking the way he is
"When a guy says he doesn't understand you, it simply means you're not thinking the way he is."
-- Thane Chan, my 17 years old nephew, posted on his blog on Thursday, April 01, 2010
I just happen to read Thane's blog today and like this quote from him!
In any conversation, if one commented that "I do not understand you!" it simply means that you are not thinking the way he/she did."
Hence, it is alright to be different from other!
Sometime, being label as un-conceivable, is just a simply fact that we can not fix into the thinking of others.
Cheers!
Dexterine Ho
-- Thane Chan, my 17 years old nephew, posted on his blog on Thursday, April 01, 2010
I just happen to read Thane's blog today and like this quote from him!
In any conversation, if one commented that "I do not understand you!" it simply means that you are not thinking the way he/she did."
Hence, it is alright to be different from other!
Sometime, being label as un-conceivable, is just a simply fact that we can not fix into the thinking of others.
Cheers!
Dexterine Ho
Sunday, August 29, 2010
Everything starts with just a thought
Thought manifests as word.
Word manifests as deed.
Deed develops into habit.
And habit hardens into character.
So watch the thought and its ways with care.
And let it spring from loveBorn out of concern for all beings.
-- The Buddha (563?-483? B.C.E.)Siddhartha Gautama
Word manifests as deed.
Deed develops into habit.
And habit hardens into character.
So watch the thought and its ways with care.
And let it spring from loveBorn out of concern for all beings.
-- The Buddha (563?-483? B.C.E.)Siddhartha Gautama
Tuesday, March 02, 2010
Inner attitudes
"Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives."
- William James
- William James
Sunday, November 15, 2009
Stinking thinking
Just found some good reading on "Stinking thinking" and here it is:
Our own reality is created by our thinking.
"Stinking thinking" generate thoughts that cause us pain. The more we pay attention to our own stinking thinking, the more we increase our inner pain.
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How to Get Rid of Stinking Thinking
By Jeff Herring
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Get-Rid-of-Stinking-Thinking&id=60091
"Have you ever tried to drive your car looking only through the rear-view mirror? It's a silly notion, but it's how we live our lives when we get caught up" in Stinking thinking!
"When you catch yourself using this particular brand of self-defeating thinking, stop and ask yourself some better questions, such as: "What can I learn from this situation?" "What mistakes did I make that I never want to make again?" "How can I use what I've experienced and learned to live better the next time I face a similar situation?
... Then you are able to live in such a way as to create few, if any, future regrets."
To read the article, visit:
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Get-Rid-of-Stinking-Thinking&id=60091
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The Top 10 Types of “Stinkin’g Thinking”
by David Burns, M.D.
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=1787
"As you learn to better identify them, you can then learn how to start answering them back with rational arguments.
In this manner, you can work to turn your internal conversation back to being a positive in your life, instead of a running negative commentary.
1. All-or-nothing thinking - You see things in black-or-white categories...
2. Overgeneralization - You see a single negative event, such as a romantic rejection or a career reversal, as a never-ending pattern of defeat by using words such as “always” or “never” when you think about it...
3. Mental Filter - You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively, so that your vision of reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that discolors a beaker of water...
4. Discounting the positive - You reject positive experiences by insisting that they “don’t count.” If you do a good job, you may tell yourself that it wasn’t good enough or that anyone could have done as well...
5. Jumping to conclusions - You interpret things negatively when there are no facts to support your conclusion...
6. Magnification - You exaggerate the importance of your problems and shortcomings, or you minimize the importance of your desirable qualities...
7. Emotional Reasoning - You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are: “I feel terrified about going on airplanes. It must be very dangerous to fly.” ...
8. “Should” statements -You tell yourself that things should be the way you hoped or expected them to be...
9. Labeling - Labeling is an extreme form of all-or-nothing thinking. Instead of saying “I made a mistake,” you attach a negative label to yourself: “I’m a loser.”...
10. Personalization and Blame - Personalization comes when you hold yourself personally responsible for an event that isn’t entirely under your control...
To read the article, visit:
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=1787
Our own reality is created by our thinking.
"Stinking thinking" generate thoughts that cause us pain. The more we pay attention to our own stinking thinking, the more we increase our inner pain.
=========================
How to Get Rid of Stinking Thinking
By Jeff Herring
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Get-Rid-of-Stinking-Thinking&id=60091
"Have you ever tried to drive your car looking only through the rear-view mirror? It's a silly notion, but it's how we live our lives when we get caught up" in Stinking thinking!
"When you catch yourself using this particular brand of self-defeating thinking, stop and ask yourself some better questions, such as: "What can I learn from this situation?" "What mistakes did I make that I never want to make again?" "How can I use what I've experienced and learned to live better the next time I face a similar situation?
... Then you are able to live in such a way as to create few, if any, future regrets."
To read the article, visit:
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Get-Rid-of-Stinking-Thinking&id=60091
=============================
The Top 10 Types of “Stinkin’g Thinking”
by David Burns, M.D.
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=1787
"As you learn to better identify them, you can then learn how to start answering them back with rational arguments.
In this manner, you can work to turn your internal conversation back to being a positive in your life, instead of a running negative commentary.
1. All-or-nothing thinking - You see things in black-or-white categories...
2. Overgeneralization - You see a single negative event, such as a romantic rejection or a career reversal, as a never-ending pattern of defeat by using words such as “always” or “never” when you think about it...
3. Mental Filter - You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively, so that your vision of reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that discolors a beaker of water...
4. Discounting the positive - You reject positive experiences by insisting that they “don’t count.” If you do a good job, you may tell yourself that it wasn’t good enough or that anyone could have done as well...
5. Jumping to conclusions - You interpret things negatively when there are no facts to support your conclusion...
6. Magnification - You exaggerate the importance of your problems and shortcomings, or you minimize the importance of your desirable qualities...
7. Emotional Reasoning - You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are: “I feel terrified about going on airplanes. It must be very dangerous to fly.” ...
8. “Should” statements -You tell yourself that things should be the way you hoped or expected them to be...
9. Labeling - Labeling is an extreme form of all-or-nothing thinking. Instead of saying “I made a mistake,” you attach a negative label to yourself: “I’m a loser.”...
10. Personalization and Blame - Personalization comes when you hold yourself personally responsible for an event that isn’t entirely under your control...
To read the article, visit:
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=1787
Sunday, November 01, 2009
Thought is the seed
Thought is the seed that may grow to a tree.
If you know that it is your thinking that determines your reality, you can be in control of your feeling and emotion.
If you blame your frustration on others, you pass your control of your own emotion to others. When you are defeated, your will feel very helpless psychologically and act like a victim.
With that kind of mind set, you will be a slave of your emotion. With the same experience repeated in your life and your social cycle, you conditioned yourself to be a person with negative thought. With that, you attract all the negative reaction inside you!
Remember that we are the gardener of our own head and mind.
A good mind gardener weeds away unwanted plants regularly. That keeps the bad away from the good.
To glow something new, a seed or a new plant need to be nurture with constant care. Having enough sunlight, yet not over exposed at the beginning. Water it regularly and use pot with holes that allow excess to be drained. Trim it so that it will branch naturally. Pass what you have trim to others, so that it will grow in their own garden. That allows the good to grow and multiply.
Blooming beautiful flowers in our head and mind is like gardening a "Botanic garden".
What is blooming inside is planted and nurtured by our thought and habit.
Fixing physically unhealthy bodies is relatively easy. Mending unhealthy minds on the other hand, may not be so easy.
Nevertheless, once we realised that we are the gardener of our thought, caring for our mind is like growing plants in our garden, we can find a way to weed the bad thought and tender to good one slowly!
Fixing negative thought is not easy, it is only easy when we realized that we can think differently, choose differently and behave differently and we start to swift the focus on ourselves instead of blaming it on others.
We that kind of mindset, we will experience life in a different perspective.
Learn to think differently!
Remember that everything begin with a thought. With a new thought, you create a new reality!
So start and create a different garden for your mind, once you have a beautiful garden that you enjoy yourselves, you will attack like minded people.
Beautiful mind is contagious too!
If you know that it is your thinking that determines your reality, you can be in control of your feeling and emotion.
If you blame your frustration on others, you pass your control of your own emotion to others. When you are defeated, your will feel very helpless psychologically and act like a victim.
With that kind of mind set, you will be a slave of your emotion. With the same experience repeated in your life and your social cycle, you conditioned yourself to be a person with negative thought. With that, you attract all the negative reaction inside you!
Remember that we are the gardener of our own head and mind.
A good mind gardener weeds away unwanted plants regularly. That keeps the bad away from the good.
To glow something new, a seed or a new plant need to be nurture with constant care. Having enough sunlight, yet not over exposed at the beginning. Water it regularly and use pot with holes that allow excess to be drained. Trim it so that it will branch naturally. Pass what you have trim to others, so that it will grow in their own garden. That allows the good to grow and multiply.
Blooming beautiful flowers in our head and mind is like gardening a "Botanic garden".
What is blooming inside is planted and nurtured by our thought and habit.
Fixing physically unhealthy bodies is relatively easy. Mending unhealthy minds on the other hand, may not be so easy.
Nevertheless, once we realised that we are the gardener of our thought, caring for our mind is like growing plants in our garden, we can find a way to weed the bad thought and tender to good one slowly!
Fixing negative thought is not easy, it is only easy when we realized that we can think differently, choose differently and behave differently and we start to swift the focus on ourselves instead of blaming it on others.
We that kind of mindset, we will experience life in a different perspective.
Learn to think differently!
Remember that everything begin with a thought. With a new thought, you create a new reality!
So start and create a different garden for your mind, once you have a beautiful garden that you enjoy yourselves, you will attack like minded people.
Beautiful mind is contagious too!
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Attachment
People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them.
-- George Bernard Shaw
When I spent many long nights reposting my NIE 2003- 2005 SM 2 and 3 student name lists on my blog, I somehow do felt that I am doing something to fulfil my attachment and it is a burden that I self-imposed.
I think the memory I have in 2001 to 2007 teaching "Digital Literacy Skills" NTU students who are SM 2 and 3 scholars from PRC is something I treasured. At the beginning, we only have Microsoft Office Skills and Library Database Searching Techniques to impart to students. After web became a common communication interface, we introduced it in the course and started to use Geocities to compose web pages in 2002.
I have all the 2003 -2005 students' web sites log on my web pages for assessment purposes and it was a nice place for me to revisit it when I shown new students the work done by their seniors.
Thoughout the years, I have increased my teaching load from 4 classes to 7 classes per year.
Going retrospectively, it is a burden to do the list again now as some of the text were in html codes and have to be re-edited into normal text.
Having the list in the past years and building slowly is less stressful than converting it within a few days before 26 Oct 2009.
I just cannot bear having the list disappear forever when I know that Geocities is closing the free web hosting websites. That is why I think I am attached to my burden.
I do not think others will find my job worthwhile, yet somehow, I think if my ex-students found the listing in the future, they may appreciate it.
Well, I do it to keep my teaching memory in my treasure troll. It is something that is self-fulfiling for me. Hence, I echo what the quotation say, "People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them."
Do you do something like that once in a while?
If you do, you know what I mean and how I feel!
Cheers!
Dexterine Ho
-- George Bernard Shaw
When I spent many long nights reposting my NIE 2003- 2005 SM 2 and 3 student name lists on my blog, I somehow do felt that I am doing something to fulfil my attachment and it is a burden that I self-imposed.
I think the memory I have in 2001 to 2007 teaching "Digital Literacy Skills" NTU students who are SM 2 and 3 scholars from PRC is something I treasured. At the beginning, we only have Microsoft Office Skills and Library Database Searching Techniques to impart to students. After web became a common communication interface, we introduced it in the course and started to use Geocities to compose web pages in 2002.
I have all the 2003 -2005 students' web sites log on my web pages for assessment purposes and it was a nice place for me to revisit it when I shown new students the work done by their seniors.
Thoughout the years, I have increased my teaching load from 4 classes to 7 classes per year.
Going retrospectively, it is a burden to do the list again now as some of the text were in html codes and have to be re-edited into normal text.
Having the list in the past years and building slowly is less stressful than converting it within a few days before 26 Oct 2009.
I just cannot bear having the list disappear forever when I know that Geocities is closing the free web hosting websites. That is why I think I am attached to my burden.
I do not think others will find my job worthwhile, yet somehow, I think if my ex-students found the listing in the future, they may appreciate it.
Well, I do it to keep my teaching memory in my treasure troll. It is something that is self-fulfiling for me. Hence, I echo what the quotation say, "People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them."
Do you do something like that once in a while?
If you do, you know what I mean and how I feel!
Cheers!
Dexterine Ho
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