Stinking thinking

Just found some good reading on "Stinking thinking" and here it is:

Our own reality is created by our thinking.

"Stinking thinking" generate thoughts that cause us pain. The more we pay attention to our own stinking thinking, the more we increase our inner pain.

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How to Get Rid of Stinking Thinking
By Jeff Herring
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Get-Rid-of-Stinking-Thinking&id=60091

"Have you ever tried to drive your car looking only through the rear-view mirror? It's a silly notion, but it's how we live our lives when we get caught up" in Stinking thinking!

"When you catch yourself using this particular brand of self-defeating thinking, stop and ask yourself some better questions, such as: "What can I learn from this situation?" "What mistakes did I make that I never want to make again?" "How can I use what I've experienced and learned to live better the next time I face a similar situation?

... Then you are able to live in such a way as to create few, if any, future regrets."

To read the article, visit:

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Get-Rid-of-Stinking-Thinking&id=60091


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The Top 10 Types of “Stinkin’g Thinking”
by David Burns, M.D.
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=1787


"As you learn to better identify them, you can then learn how to start answering them back with rational arguments.

In this manner, you can work to turn your internal conversation back to being a positive in your life, instead of a running negative commentary.

1. All-or-nothing thinking - You see things in black-or-white categories...

2. Overgeneralization - You see a single negative event, such as a romantic rejection or a career reversal, as a never-ending pattern of defeat by using words such as “always” or “never” when you think about it...

3. Mental Filter - You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively, so that your vision of reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that discolors a beaker of water...

4. Discounting the positive - You reject positive experiences by insisting that they “don’t count.” If you do a good job, you may tell yourself that it wasn’t good enough or that anyone could have done as well...

5. Jumping to conclusions - You interpret things negatively when there are no facts to support your conclusion...

6. Magnification - You exaggerate the importance of your problems and shortcomings, or you minimize the importance of your desirable qualities...

7. Emotional Reasoning - You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are: “I feel terrified about going on airplanes. It must be very dangerous to fly.” ...

8. “Should” statements -You tell yourself that things should be the way you hoped or expected them to be...

9. Labeling - Labeling is an extreme form of all-or-nothing thinking. Instead of saying “I made a mistake,” you attach a negative label to yourself: “I’m a loser.”...

10. Personalization and Blame - Personalization comes when you hold yourself personally responsible for an event that isn’t entirely under your control...

To read the article, visit:
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=1787